Wednesday, 7 January 2015
Pope: Motherhood is martyrdom -Published on Jan 7, 2015
As I am a mother myself, I thought it will be a wonderful idea to share with the world this beautiful email I received --- intertwining Pope Francis's general audience of 7th January 2015 with the life of --- Saint Joaquima de Vedruna
Feast of Saint Anthony, Abbot
Joaquima de Vedruna was born in Barcelona, Spain, on April 16, 1783, and was baptized that same day. Her parents, Llorenc de Vedruna, a notary in the city’s royal chancery, and Teresa Vidal would have eight children, including two sons. One of them, Ramon, would become a member of the Academy of Belles Lettres. At the time, Catalonia, for good or ill, was under the central authority of the Bourbons, and the “French Enlightenment” (the skeptical and rationalist spirit introduced by philosophers such as Voltaire), was beginning to influence thought. The Vedruna family, for its part, would remain profoundly Catholic.
A naive request
A young lawyer named Theodore de Mas, originally from Vic, a town 70 kilometers away, worked alongside Mr. Vedruna at the chancery in Barcelona. At the time such a distance made it impossible to return home every day. So Llorenc de Vedruna opened his home to the young man. It wasn’t long before Theodore felt an attraction to the charming Joaquima, barely sixteen years old. The father rejoiced at the thought of having such a son-in-law, and he soon spoke of it to his daughter. Although still drawn to religious life, Joaquima saw in her father’s desire God’s will for her. The wedding was set for Easter Sunday, March 24, 1799. Theodore brought his wife to the family home, but the young Barcelonian did not have the good fortune of pleasing her parents-in-law, which led to great misunderstandings and tension that would diminish only with the birth of their first daughter, Anna. Other births then followed: a total of nine children, two boys and seven girls, of whom three (a boy and two girls) would die in childhood. Four daughters would embrace religious life.
“The joy of children causes the parents’ hearts to beat and reopens the future,” declared Pope Francis, on February 11, 2015. “Children are the joy of the family and of society. They are not a question of reproductive biology, nor one of the many ways to fulfill oneself, much less a possession of their parents … Children are a gift, they are a gift … Each one is unique and irreplaceable; and at the same time unmistakably linked to his/her roots … a society with a paucity of generations, which does not love being surrounded by children, which considers them above all a worry, a weight, a risk, is a depressed society … If a family with many children is looked upon as a weight, something is wrong! The having of children must be responsible, as the Encyclical Humanae Vitae of Blessed Pope Paul VI also teaches, but having many children cannot automatically be an irresponsible choice. Not to have children is a selfish choice. Life is rejuvenated and acquires energy by multiplying: it is enriched, not impoverished! Children learn to assume responsibility for their family. They mature in sharing its hardship. They grow in the appreciation of its gifts. The happy experience of brotherhood inspires respect and care for parents, to whom our recognition is due.”
The nineteenth century in Spain was particularly troubled. The country was continually disrupted by wars, attempted revolutions, and fierce struggles for power. Taking advantage of conflicts within the ruling family, Napoleon seized the peninsula. In 1808, Barcelona was occupied by the French army, and the Vedruna family fled to the countryside. Theodore enlisted as an officer in the Spanish army, against Napoleon. When peace returned, the family moved to Barcelona where Theodore opened a management office. His health suffered as a result of the war, but he worked bravely to provide for his family. On January 26, 1816, he wrote to his wife, who was at the family farm: “Dear Joaquima, thank you for your kind letter… I am happy that you and the little one are well… I wish that you return as soon as possible, for the boys are driving me crazy. One wants to go to the theater, the other to the little shepherds, and it is I who must take them … The clients do not pay their bills and I am ashamed to ask for what I am owed… May we live many more years to enjoy one another. Your husband, Theodore, who loves you awake, asleep, dreaming, and in repose.”
I choose you!”
“Mothers,” said Pope Francis, on January 7, 2015, “are the strongest antidote to the spread of self-centered individualism. ‘Individual’ means ‘what cannot be divided’. Mothers, instead, ‘divide’ themselves, from the moment they bear a child to give him to the world and help him grow… How a mother suffers! It is they who testify to the beauty of life. Archbishop Oscar Arnulfo Romero said that mothers experience a ‘martyrdom of motherhood’ … Yes, being a mother doesn’t only mean bringing a child to the world, but it is also a life choice. The life choice of a mother is the choice to give life. And this is great, this is beautiful. A society without mothers would be a dehumanized society, for mothers are always, even in the worst moments, witnesses of tenderness, dedication and moral strength… Without mothers, not only would there be no new faithful, but the faith would lose a good part of its simple and profound warmth. And the Church is mother, with all of this, she is our mother! We are not orphans, we have a mother! … We are not orphans, we are children of the Church, we are children of Our Lady, and we are children of our mothers.”
The Lord wants something else
In instituting the jubilee year of Mercy, Pope Francis exhorted Christians to perform works of mercy: “It is my burning desire that, during this Jubilee, the Christian people may reflect on the corporal and spiritual works of mercy… Jesus introduces us to these works of mercy in His preaching so that we can know whether or not we are living as His disciples. Let us rediscover these corporal works of mercy: to feed the hungry, give drink to the thirsty, clothe the naked, welcome the stranger, heal the sick, visit the imprisoned, and bury the dead. And let us not forget the spiritual works of mercy: to counsel the doubtful, instruct the ignorant, admonish sinners, comfort the afflicted, forgive offenses, bear patiently those who do us ill, and pray for the living and the dead… May the words of the Apostle accompany us: he who does acts of mercy, let him do them with cheerfulness (cf. Rom. 12:8)” (Bull of Indiction of the Extraordinary Jubilee of Mercy, April 11, 2015).
In preparing for her mission as foundress, Joaquima practiced long hours of mental prayer, however without depriving her children of her tenderness as a mother, and devoted herself to both works of charity and harsh penances. She showed a pronounced appetite for liturgical prayers, whose richness and savor she penetrated. Her spirituality likewise rested on the profound experience of God the Father’s love, a love that Jesus’ humanity made visible and that the Spirit inspires to enable one to follow in the footsteps of Christ. Joaquima’s soul was transformed, and the Lord rewarded her with extraordinary spiritual gifts: ecstasies, raptures, levitations… These phenomena punctuated the rest of her life, and, in spite of the care she took to hide them, were witnessed by many.
Misunderstandings and criticisms
Joaquima did not build any convent; the manor she had inherited from her husband would be the cradle of the new congregation. On February 26, 1826, during a Mass at the Capuchin house in the town, the institute was officially founded and nine young women committed themselves to it. At the bishop’s request, it was placed under the patronage of Our Lady of Mount Carmel. In 1850, it would be definitively approved under the name of “Congregation of Carmelite Sisters of Charity”. At the manor, which had become their novitiate, these apostolic Carmelites opened a school for girls; they also offered to watch over the sick at night. Joaquima was a true mother to her companions who, for the most part, were younger than her own children. Brother Stephen, who had written them a Rule very much marked by Franciscan spirituality, died in 1828, and Joaquima had to take over the growing congregation without the support of this precious spiritual guide. Very appreciative of the friendship of priests she knew, she suffered when they seemed to forget her. In a letter to the prioress of a convent, she wrote, “Please tell Father Francesc that I do not know if he is living or dead. As for me, I cannot forget him, but as for him, I think that he has forgotten me, for I have not received a single word from him. At least remember me to him.”
Thanks to new laws that protected charitable activities, Joaquima and her daughters were able to offer their services in municipal hospitals. As both a daughter and wife of men of the law, she knew how to take advantage of the laws in force to assist the poor, her charges. The impact of her congregation on local authorities and on communities grew to the point that vocations poured in, and the services of the Carmelites of Charity were requested from towns far and wide. However, when the congregation had been in existence only seven years, the first Carlist War (1833-1839) brought about the closing of almost all the houses, as well as Joaquima’s imprisonment. Indeed, she was called an enemy of the victorious State, because one of her sons had enlisted in the Carlist militias (legitimist royalists, supporters of Don Carlos, opposed to the liberal monarchy in Madrid). After a harsh persecution and a brief prison stay, she finally was forced into self-imposed exile in France, where the city of Perpignan welcomed her for three years (1840-1843). From there, she could still maintain an exchange of letters with her communities that had been spared by the government. Life in the capital of Roussillon was not easy. Living in a too small apartment and surviving by doing a few odd jobs, the fifteen Sisters and the Superior saw the death of three of them. The foundress wrote to her deputy for the Spanish communities: “In spite of all that I am currently living, that I have already lived through, and all that I am seeing, God always sustains me by giving me courage so that I do not completely succumb. This is why, my daughter, I can affirm that on the way of the cross, it is Jesus Who carries it. Amen! Forward!” The varied, unforeseen and unsettling circumstances of her life had taught Joaquima that it is abandoning oneself totally into God’s hands that makes it possible to endure all things. Her apostolic dynamism remained steeped in contemplative life. In her numerous occupations, she remained closely united with God. Her motto could have been: “Action through contemplation.”
An inestimable comfort
Exhausted by such dedication, the foundress’ strength weakened. In 1849, she had already suffered a stroke. Seated in a wheelchair, she witnessed the continuing flourishing of her congregation in the hands of her successor. The morning of August 28, 1854, in Barcelona where she had moved at the end of 1852, she suffered a stroke. The cholera epidemic carried her off on this same day, around three o’clock in the afternoon, at the age of seventy-one. This disease would claim four hundred victims in the House of Charity that she herself had founded. Joaquima de Vedruna, a widow, left behind six living children, eleven grandchildren and an institute that numbered 150 sisters spread out among thirty communities. Beatified by Pius XII on May 19, 1940, she was canonized on April 12, 1959 by Saint John XXIII. Under the mantle of Our Lady of Mount Carmel, the tertiary Carmelites of Charity-Vedruna continue today their unceasing devotion to serving others. They currently number more than 2,500 religious, carrying out their mission in twenty-three countries on four continents.
Saint Joaquima reminds us that we can sanctify ourselves whatever our state in life and be faithful to the Lord “Who calls”. She shows that the life of sacrifice, illumined by humility and prayer, is a short path to Heaven. Let us put her teaching to good use in our own lives.
Dom Antoine Marie osb
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